1. Your passions have always been inside of you. We don't 'find ourselves' as much as we 'go back to' ourselves. I have been roasting people since I was 4. It makes me an excellent candidate for a 'food critic', or 'life coach'. Or maybe a sharp observational comic.
2. If you really wanted to do it, you'd be doing it right now. I have been guilty of hanging a metaphorical cold noodle over my own dog nose of 'as soon as X happens, I'll be free to pursue my dream'. Hate to be cliche, but its not true. Even if you want to be a cinematic James Cameron prodigy, I'd like to think that at 22 you're making iPhone movies or at the very least, creative Christmas card photos a la Givenchy's instagram - just because you can't help yourself. The best life advice I ever received for relationships is 'if a person wants to see you, or talk to you or call you, there's nothing in the world that can stop them'. Now just put yourself in the shoes of this 13-y-o hopeful, and put your dreams in the form of an elusive fuccboi.Go get em.
3. Enough. Literally with the spending. I confess I haven't done a budget in years, I eyeball my budget (as "hopefully" everyone does), and apply general philosophies to my life so that I don't micromanage myself (hope of my ginger, self). Here's what every Bloomberg guru wants you to know in 0.3 seconds: Literally be cheap. Everyone knows how to be cheap. Even rich people know how to be cheap (ask them to pay >$16 for an Uber. They'll walk it.). Nay a lowly gal nor a wily lad has ever learned viable or new financial habits from an Elite Daily article of 'life hacks', or the 23rd sponsored CNBC article on how to become a millionaire at age 25. Reach down, pull that self control emergency-break and just do it in your own special way. FInd two jeans you like. Find a good coat and wipe your hot breath off the glass after you walk past the Nordstrom sale. See the Off-white collection, double tap the Off-white collection on IG, then breathe out, turn off your cracked phone and wear your Vans. Minimalism ... but like ... make it fashion.
SN: Generational wealth, privilege, and a below-livable minimum wage are all very real realities of today. If you know that latte is to cope with the burden of poverty, crippling debt, or pulling through a toxic job situation --- self-care first. Also, latte money has never amounted to rent, student loan payments, medical bills or school fees, so lets be real America.
4. Make one small step to adult-hood everyday. For me I had a bunch of makeup that I bought in 2016 and vowed to start wearing because youth is currency, and I had a bunch of unused bank notes. Like Belcalis the queen once said, I needed to start "making money move" in these skreets. I am now going on my 30th-day of successfully wearing makeup. (That took everything). I love the way I look, but I just promised my 15-y-o self that I'd give a damb after 20.. That's it. After makeup, the next step was washing my makeup brushes (for the 4th time in 6 years) and not just caking different colors on the same brushes until every look ended up looking like dirty paintbrush water (eww). The little victories that only you know about, really fill you with a sense of pride.
5. Affirmations, crystals and sage are the hippy-dippiest shit. No amount of time on this earth will change my mind. But they're all we got. Spritz that mercury retrograde room spray. Start with affirmations in the morning. We have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Exhibit A: Squandering her youth.
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